Why do some less masculine guys who wear long girlish hair get mad when mistakened for a girl?

%26amp; why do some less feminine girls who wear a more masculine hair style/clothes get irritated when mistaken for a man?

This seems like a civilian girl who likes wearing police uniforms getting mad when you think she's a cop. Seems immature to assume people are going to know what you are if you present yourself as something similar to something else. The fake cop girl can't expect people to assume she's not a cop if she clearly wears the uniform every day. Just like a less masculine looking guy can't expect people to think he's a dude if he covers his head %26amp; shoulders with pretty feminine hair in the same girlish and sometimes expensive hair style as many girls do.

This isn't an offense to people who like dressing the way they want. You should be what ever you feel you are and dress the way you please. I just don't get why some of these people get mad when mistaken for somthing they closely resemble at first. They should be mature enough to know who they resemble.

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Why do some less masculine guys who wear long girlish hair get mad when mistakened for a girl?

It's not really a sexual orientation issue; it's a gender issue.

People who identify as women want to be recognized as women. People who identify as men want to be recognized as men. It is insulting and actually hurtful to be mistaken for the opposite gender.

(I am even careful now when on the telephone with someone I do not know -- until they give me solid, verbal cues as to their gender, I respond to them in a neutral way. Example: some women have deep voices and some men have high ones.)

As a guy, I'll use your long-haired guy example: Some guys as adult men really have nice hair -- they were blessed in the "hair gene" department. People have commented on their hair and they are fastidious about it, sometimes wearing it long. They are "accentuating" a very positive and good-looking part of their physical appearance. When people mistake them as women, let's say from a distance, that makes them feel bad because the very reason they have long hair is to make themselves look good or feel good. And often men, when hurt, will show feelings of anger instead of hurt or sadness.

So we all have to be careful. We have to validate everyone for being a male or a female -- that is a very important responsibility we have to our fellow human beings.

Why do some less masculine guys who wear long girlish hair get mad when mistakened for a girl?

Mandakathryn - I wish I could give 2 people 10 points. Thanks for your answer as well. Yeah I think it's there responsibility to change their appearance to look like the way they want to be seen. Not get mad when people see them as what they appear to look like. Report It

Why do some less masculine guys who wear long girlish hair get mad when mistakened for a girl?

Thanks for the invisible 10 points, lol !!! and for the ten from the other one.. ;) Report It

Why do some less masculine guys who wear long girlish hair get mad when mistakened for a girl?

It's their own style of living we got to accept and understand there are specialists around us .that makes the world more fun!

Why do some less masculine guys who wear long girlish hair get mad when mistakened for a girl?

It is an honest mistake in many cases...I agree with you. Im sure it is annoying but we learn by generalization. So in society we see long hair and typically think woman, short hair we think man. They really can't blame the person who made the mistake. They can only change their hair. But it is honestly a rare occasion where I have true difficulty distinguishing.

**I completely agree with you. I didn't mean to give the impression that generalization is negative. When a generalization is negative, then it is a stereotype (such as the big nose example.) My defense of those who may accidentally mistake a man with long hair for a woman is "well, we learn by generalization which is how we develop and become competant so those who are offended cannot really fault those who make the honest mistake." Is that more clear? Probably not, its late. and no worries on the typos. :)

Why do some less masculine guys who wear long girlish hair get mad when mistakened for a girl?

It's a guy thing. Girls do not flip out if they are mistaken as a boy. Guys do. The love of my life has long full hair down to his lower back. It's looks beautiful and extremely sexy on him. One day we were kissing in the car and from the side of the car were two guys walking near the car. They kept looking into car because they saw me kissing someone w/ long hair that can possibly and most likely be another girl. When they got in front of the car, they noticed my boyfriend was a dude. My boyfriend and l laughed. He's been made fun of before by mostly shaved head and balding men. He gets upset for a little bit but he knows that they are jealous of him because truthfully he gets a lot of attention from the ladies. Yes, he's so hot. He would say "Don't hate the player. Hate the game."

Myself, I've been mistaken for a dude when I was younger. Mainly because I was tall, skinny, didn't have long or straight hair, which is key to feminity (I had afroish hair), didn't wear makeup (daddy wouldn't let me and makeup for women of color was invented yet), and I wore baggy shirts (I hit puberty early and had big boobs and had a Tyra Banks figure, so I didn't want the additional attention fr: creepy older boys.) Did I get mad when I was identified as a boy, sometimes. And deep down I know I was going to display my feminity and sexuality when I got older but I didn't wanted to be bugged by boys who were trying to get me pregnant when I was 10 to 18 yrs old. Gross.

Why do some less masculine guys who wear long girlish hair get mad when mistakened for a girl?

its scary for guy to be called girl